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Carlita Shaw's avatar

For those who have had a recent bereavement, here is a piece I wrote a while back on Unravelling Grief https://carlitashaw.substack.com/p/unravelling-grief

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Xmetanoia's avatar

Gosh! I am so sorry for your loss, so distant and yet so fresh. Peace be with you and may Light Perpetual shine on your husband.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Thank you Xmetanoia for this.

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Simone Senisin's avatar

Sending you much love. I lost my partner in 2019, and relate to the sentiments expressed in your beautiful poem 🙏🏼❤️‍🩹

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Sorry for your loss Simone. Sending a hug

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Simone Senisin's avatar

And to you 🙏🏼❤️

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Crystal M Gomez's avatar

The rawness of your words is the realness of this poem. It touched my emotions and I feel your pain. My husband was widowed with 2 young boys at age 30. We met and married two years later. We’ve been together 36 years. You expressed everything he told me but with the passion of a writer. From the depth of your gut. I hope you too find someone to fill your aching wound. Never give up. It can happen.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Thanks Crystal, I don't see it like needing someone else. There really is no one in the world that could fill that space after Andres, he was a rare human being.

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Water Gypsy Pirate's avatar

I lost my rare human being last August ... I feel as if I now live on the event horizon of a black hole. Your words echo the crushing emptiness his loss has left in my life. I greive with you. The thought of another person entering his space is abhorent to me. My body physically hurts, something deep in the solar plexus has been torn out. There is no replacing such a person, there is only the hope that I carry something of him with me. I greive with you.

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Jane's avatar

The power of poetry is your gift to us. Thank you

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Thank you very much!

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Susana Montano's avatar

Carlita, I just read this - when you shared before that you had lost him, I felt I was standing at the edge of a cliff, so I know it has been beyond pain for you. There is a system of belief that every thought of the person lost brings their soul back to earth, so that, eventually, as our lives’ activities fill our time, we naturally choose to remember the positive experiences, and their souls feel happier. You already know you will see each other again- I wish the pictures of that wonderful reunion to fill your heart with peace.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Dear Susana, thank you for these words, they mean a lot to me. I appreciate what you have shared, and it's interesting you felt as if standing on the edge of a cliff, as before I lost him, I had a nightmare of something along those lines.

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Dr.Don Hall's avatar

Pure soul. We May Teach about physical separation but not same as the spiritual ache and never ending mental battle.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Thank you for sharing.

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Cl's avatar

Mirabilis exquisite veritas

— that and no more

Be well

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Wendy Kurchak's avatar

Carlita, thank you for sharing your poetry and your raw truth of grief. I hope that now your memories come gently into your mind and spirit, bearing peace, comfort, and grace.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Thank you very much, blessings to you also Wendy

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eike.dirks's avatar

What a beautiful poem. Thank you

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Thank you Eike. I never thought people would ever receive it so well.

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from curiosity and wonder's avatar

So sorry for your loss Carlita.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Thank you

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PhilsThom's avatar

🥰

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SureyaSuzanne's avatar

It truly is beyond words, and grief lingers. I lost my only brother in 2018 also, suddenly and suspiciously. And even though it has been seven years, it seems just yesterday. Sending 💖 to you.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Sorry for your loss Suzanne, yes it does seem like yesterday.

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Brenda's avatar

Powerful. Your grief is felt. 🌸

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Laurie Brasel's avatar

What a beautiful and powerful tribute, Carlita! Loss is inevitable in this life. Some are just more painful than others. My heart hugs yours.

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Carlita Shaw's avatar

Very true Laurie, thank you.

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Laurie Brasel's avatar

You’re welcome! Thank you for sharing your poem.

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Teo's avatar

Beyond words..🌀💫🦋✨💜

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